The Making Not The Breaking

Friday  morning John took our daughter with him to town and while they were out I read a chapter out of Lysa Terkeurst’s latest book, Uninvited.

“Heartbreak is part of life. It’s certainly been part of different seasons of my marriage. And though every single hurt seemed like an exposure of weakness in our relationship, it actually brought out a strength we couldn’t have gotten any other way.”

As I read that, it stood out to me, and as usual I took my pencil out and blocked out that text so that on a later day I could easily see the parts of the book that really hit me.

John got back from town with Summer Kate. We laughed & took pictures of her napping with her short Starbucks cup. How is it possible to be so cute while sleeping? She melts me.

He brought a coffee back from town for myself and to anyone who knows me, knows that is way to my heart. But then, out of nowhere, something happened. We exchanged some words and just like that we were at odds against one another. Neither one of us planned for this to happen, but before we could apologize for words that were tossed at each other carelessly, we were both in separate spaces. He on the porch while I was left on the couch where the exchanged occurred. Both of us, confused and hurt, because nothing tragic was said, but just enough to get us irritated at one another. Some time passed by and we came back together, exchanged some tearful apologies and explanations, and just like that we both realized that we aren’t each others enemy, there were things below the surface conversations that triggered the heightened emotions. It took some time for us to remember, we are on the same team.

Just like I had read this morning, what seems like weakness in our marriage is actually working together to bring strengths out of our marriage that wouldn’t be possible without those times of weakness.

The enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy and he would love nothing more than to destroy marriages. Marriage is a covenant. Marriage is about unity. Marriage isn’t what the enemy wants to thrive. He wants strife to thrive. He wants careless words of death to be thrown. He wants feelings to be hurt and for each spouse to never completely heal.

Here’s how